As a friend of mine with 12 children told me after the birth of my sixth child, “you have a good start; the first six are the hardest”. So I would say about marriage, the first 20 years are the hardest. [Perhaps not so long if you have fewer or no children.] Children, add a whole other dimension to the equation, along with both spouses working.
An article I read once, which I will be posting as well, speaks of “falling” in and out of love. Falling indicates an accident and in a marriage setting, that is a very dangerous feeling to have. Two people meet. Find joy in sharing time together. Decide to make a commitment to one another by being wed. The wedding day comes and is glorious. Everyone is so happy and filled with love and joy. How does a day like that get forgotten? How do all of the things that led up to that point get lost? How do a couple so filled with love and joy get to a point that one can say to the other, “I don’t love you anymore, in fact, I never loved you.”?
Marriage is like any other living thing. In order for it to survive, it must be nourished and fed. If it isn't, we are letting it die, or worse yet, killing it.
Marriage is not just ordained of God, it is a necessary institution for happiness in everyday life, in society. Divorce and intimate relationships outside of marriage are very selfish actions that are detrimental not only to families, but to society as a whole. As people use the excuse for divorce that they deserve a little happiness in this life, are they thinking of the right of their children to also experience happiness etc. As children are being born into this world without the benefit of two loving parents to teach them how to be good citizens and surround them in security and love, we see a huge rise in law breaking and lack of concern for anyone besides “me”.
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